Jul 19 2009
Instant Crisis Relief
I know the exact moment that my mid-life crisis ended.
It ended when I realized that I wasn’t being the me that I really am. It ended when I realized that the weak, worried, struggling soul that I had seemingly become was not really me. So I simply decided to assume my true identity.
I had been improving for months, but that moment of perfect clarity and change happened in an instant. I became who I really am, a person I had been before, although now, this version was improved – this version was wiser.
I’ll tell you exactly what happened to spur my decision to finally say…”No More!”
It happened because of a bill.
Some company sent me a bill that, at first, made me say, “Crap! Another bill to pay. When will I ever get through paying these bills.” But, even as I stood looking at the bill and lamenting my fate, there came another thought…the thought that changed me and brought me back to my true identity. And it started with one word.
“NO!”
I had finally had enough of my personal victimhood. I had had enough of feeling like a loser. I had had enough of embracing a personae that was foreign to my true nature. And that’s when I began to win at life again, the minute I said “No” to a way of being that was not serving me.
All it took was a real decision to “be” who I wanted to be. When you change your “being,” your thinking must follow. When you change your thinking and resolve to take action, those actions are now the actions of the real you. They are positive, strong, loving, success actions.
If you make the decision to be a positive, strong, loving, and successful person, then those same actions and attitudes must follow.
Think about it this way: what makes a person loving? Loving thoughts and loving actions. So the way to be a loving person is to think and act with love. If you decide that you are a loving person, that love is a part of your true identity, then it must affect the way you think and act.
This may sound like circular reasoning, but it is the only way I know that works. Decide who you really are and then think and act in a way that is consistent with the kind of person you long to be and then you are that person.
That’s why I can boldly claim (as I did in my last blog post) that you are already the person you long to be because, if you long to be a certain way, that is proof that that is the real you. And the way you release the real you is to act and think in a way that is consistent with the real you.
If you want lasting change, the last few paragraphs are worth rereading and also worth your thoughtful contemplation.
If you need further insight, leave a comment or send an email, and I will get back in touch with you.
Once I made the decision (and I will blog about decisions soon…you haven’t really made one if you don’t take action) to be who I really am, things began to change for me. Business improved and continues to improve. I ran for office and won. I feel more like myself than I ever have before.
I am convinced that when you make a conscious committed decision to take your proper place in the Universe, you flip a cosmic switch and your life begins to immediately change for the better.Consider this quote from Johann Wolfgang van Goethe.
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.
It’s time for you to cast of any hesitancy, weakness, and fear.
It’s time for you to make a committed decision to be who you really are.
4 responses so far
Buz, I am going through exactly what you talk about in this post. The action I am taking makes me uncomfortable. It is new to me to take action, yet I already feel a change because I have committed to action. I have had that longing to “be me.” I have been afraid of what it means, of the changes that must take place in my life. I have been “going with the flow” which is easy. Right now action is not easy, but it is mandatory, and is very much worth it. I am committed to making it work.
Christie
Hi Buz!
I was looking forward to this post!
And as always, it was worth it.
It’s amazing how sometimes this apparently simple but super-wise and super-powerful solution seems so difficult to see and apply, when you are all caught up in the downward spiral of a bad period…
I never used to hesitate but I seem to be stuck at present but shall try it out
This is kind of neat. I’ve been doing a happiness theme on Facebook. Every day I try post a quote or two about happiness. Here is today’s quote:
“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want. ~ Margaret Young”