Mar 14 2010
Still Haven’t Found What I’m looking For
I just watched a presentation by Gary Vaynerchuk about doing what you love (click here to watch) on TED. It contains some adult language, so be forewarned; but it’s a great talk.
Do you know what you love to do?
That’s something I still consider…what do I really love to do?
I know I love people. I love to try and help people figure out the best approaches to their problems. I love to read and learn. I love to reflect and ruminate. I love to write. I love to dream.
But, that one big thing still escapes me.
There are lots of writers and bloggers in personal development who would never admit that they still wonder about what they love to do. But I tend to identify more with my readers than I do with those “gurus.” I’m not too proud to admit that I still have questions. I’m still searching and learning.
I still haven’t found exactly what I’m looking for.
9 responses so far
Hi Buzz.
I am one of those ‘gurus’. I have it all figured out. Well, at least I am supposed to… except there’s one thing we ought to keep in mind. Life is a process it’s endless until it ends, and so, being a process and endless, how can one ever figure it out?
The only constant is change. How do you figure out change [ ahead of the game so to speak]?
And, that’s the exciting thing – there’s always something new every day – if only we are open to that fact!
Phil,
Thanks for starting the dialogue.
Excellent observation about change. My comment about “gurus” refers to those who never allow you to see a crack in their armor. And I’m afraid that they give people unrealistic expectations which may lead to feelings of inferiority, such as “I’ve read his book and followed his suggestions, and nothing has changed – what’s wrong with me?”
But focusing on the process of life is very freeing. The process I teach about happiness revolves around changing your thinking. And this process works. But it certainly doesn’t answer all of life’s questions, and I never suggest that it does. But it frees you up so that you can jump fully into the stream of life.
The quest about discovering what you love to do and doing what you love to do, that’s first rate activity. And, you are correct…there is something new everyday.
Thanks, once again, for beginning the dialogue. I hope others join in.
Buz
Love it! “If you collect Smurfs, smurf it up!” lol
Heh heh…. I am so glad to see this! Fits so perfectly with project I am working on.
Thanks so much Buz!
Hugs to U!
KK
Hi Buz,
I still haven’t completely decided what I’m going to do if I grow up. I love the work that I”m doing – I get to combine my love of helping people with the challenge of conquering pesky computer issues. And I know how I ended up here, it may be helpful to you.
I was 30 and going through a horrible divorce. I found myself penniless and without the necessary experience to get a job that would support my children. I made of list of everything I love to do and everything I was good at. It included many things. Then I sorted it by what would make me the most money with the least amount of education and computers slipped to the top.
I went back to school and studied programming but didn’t like the isolation. Through a series of serendipitous events, I was led to a position doing technical support for a software provider. In my spare time I still pursue those other things I love to do: photography, woodworking, writing, etc.
KK, glad you liked it. Let me know what you are working on. I’d love to share it in my blog.
And to Holly, recreating yourself as your true self…what a concept! And the TED video I refer to in the post suggests that we should keep our ‘job’ while we pursue monetizing what we love. Have you settled on a way to monetize what you love yet?
Buz
Hi Buz,
Thanks for your post and for the link to Gary’s talk. I especially liked the title of your post. I’m a musician and love to play that song by U2!
Gary’s basic message was, do what you want to do and forget the rest. I think he’s right. And as he said towards the end, we may have to do the 9-to-5 or whatever before the dream comes to pass, but if we are authentic and doing what it is that truly makes our sing, then we’re in alignment with the Universe.
For me, Buz, it has not been a question of what I love to do. What I’ve finally come to terms with is that I have a job to do in silencing that silly ass committee inside my head that says I can’t make a living at it! And as of today, the committee is NOT the one who is winning!
Blessings Buz,
Todd
Todd, thanks for commenting, and good for you! You deserve to do what you love.
Blessings to you as well!
Buz
Hi Buzz,
We used to talk and you mentored me for a while. Just saw something from you in an old email address I used to use.
How are things? If you don’t remember me that’s okay and if you do that’s okay, too. Just thought I would say a hello and thank you for being willing to help me when I asked.
I’m totally not into the guru stuff. So many gurus you can’t ignore them all. To bad though.
You sound tired. Like you have something you want and you are ready to connect with it. hmmmm.
Chat Later,
Becky
Hey, Becky! Thanks for commenting. I think I remember…if I revisited some of those old emails, I would remember for sure. My main problem with the gurus is that it gets to the point where they seem not normal. It’s normal to be tired sometime. It’s normal to wonder. It’s normal to say, “hmmm, I’ll have to think about that.” And, after the recent ’sweat lodge disaster,’ it is apparent that there are definite chinks in the armor. Also, when you see some of the stuff that some of them sell, there is a degree of ‘huksterism’ that I find unsettling.
I’m still the same happy guy I’ll always been; I just don’t mind showing the chinks in my armor. And I’m still enjoying my journey!
Buz